Just Get On With It!

......might be something you say to yourself many times in any particular day. It can relate to getting up a pace to do something, ignoring some presenting emotional issue or a way of attempting to motivate yourself.

In almost everyone of these cases pushing yourself to a position ' of just getting on with it' can create eventual harm to your emotional metabolism - something hugely underrated and even ignored by our western culture.

Think for a minute how you know what you value? It is by the feeling experienced when engaged with a particular event. A simple way to try this out is to remember a favourite film; you don't remember all the dialogue but you will remember how it made you feel.

So sometimes that familiar phrase is our language of 'just getting on with it' can be approached another way by asking yourself some of the following questions

1. what am I attempting to ignore that may be important - specifically the feeling states?
2. am I using 'activity' or being 'busy' as a method of avoiding some important feeling

Try to take time out for big life events - simply to have time to attend to how you feel. Encouragement of emotional metabolism will help you feel better (and if you feel worse its better out than stuck inside), it will help your thinking to become clearer and  in turn you may arrive at a more comfortable place. Remember avoidance of important feelings creates emotional constipation, there is much evidence that this becomes 'somatised' and then shows up as physical problems.