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Polarities? All or Nothing, Black or White, Binge or Strict, Famine or Feast?
In my Southfields, Earlsfield and Wimbledon Park practices this is one of the most common underlying psychological traits, be it to try and reduce on food, drinking, maintaining an exercise regime, or keep up with a particular activity.
Clients report being able to maintain on their programme - be it any of the above activities or lifestyle tweaks - for a period, really sticking to the promise they have made them self. Several weeks or months later to find themselves doing exactly the opposite of the goal without much sense of control.
This type of oscillating back and forth between "good" and "bad" is incredibly common. It often links back to very old negative beliefs - often taken onboard when they were quite young (5-10 years). Sometimes these negative beliefs can be child like decisions about a tricky situation that baffles your adult intellect. To understand this more we must transport ourselves back to the mind of a 6 year old (for example) and look through their eyes on the situation to gain an understanding.
Here's a (real life) example: Little girl age 6 from a big family is hurriedly rushed to the toilet because mums concerned about leaving the siblings. Client comes in 25 years later with a problem of needing to rush to the toilet abruptly at the most inconvenient moments. Seems odd to the mind of an adult, but to the child her toilet visit on that occasion had imprinted 'urination + urgency + inconvenience" into her unconscious. This then leads to the adult problem of urgency to urinate.
All of these programming "glitches" can - with some care and careful consideration - be modified to bring relief to clients. Usually I use a mixture of EMDR and clinical hypnosis and timeline therapy. 80-90% of these type of problems can be sorted out relatively quickly, often bringing huge relief to clients.